Danielle Romanelli Assistant Editor
On Sept. 7, 2018, the world-famous rapper known as Mac Miller died of an overdose in Los Angeles, California. Miller is most known for his hit songs such as “Missed Calls,” “Donald Trump,” and “The Way” to name a few. What seems like minutes after the news was released of Miller’s death, Twitter posts, Instagram comments, and Facebook shares were made blaming Ariana Grande, Miller’s ex-girlfriend, for his death. Miller and Grande split earlier this year and Grande is now engaged to Pete Davidson, a comedian famous from NBC’s “Saturday Night Live.”
The obviously false accusations towards Grande soon turned into death threats and go as far as blaming her for the terrorist attack in Manchester during one of her concerts. These comments and posts resulted in Grande turning off comments on her Instagram, but that still did not stop anyone from abusing her.
Tweets began to surface, saying things along the lines of how she should not have left Mac Miller while he was struggling with sobriety. This may come as a shock to some people, but both men and women are not obligated to stay in a relationship just because the other person is struggling. It is not a person’s duty to wear themselves thin trying to save someone they love. People leave relationships for many reasons, and sometimes that means leaving the person you love for the sake of your own sanity. Grande posted a tweet on Twitter shortly after she split with Miller saying, “how absurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them…I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety and prayed for balance for years. But shaming/blaming women for a man’s instability to keep himself together is a very major problem.”
In any relationship, if you leave and something happens, it is not your fault. Staying in a toxic relationship to try to save the other person will do nothing but hurt you. Drug use is a serious problem, and this sad tragedy is something that could have been prevented. However, Grande is not responsible for not preventing it.
After all that Grande has gone through, she remains very strong. She grew up with crippling anxiety and is still living with it every day, spent a majority of her life with divorced parents, and has extreme PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) from the terrorist attack that occurred during one of her shows. She does not deserve another problem. She is not to blame for Mac Miller’s death, and to anyone who thinks so, you are wrong. Take a step back and look at the real problem before pointing blame at innocent people. The real problem is addiction. It’s time to start treating addiction for what it really is: a disease. We need to make a change.